Brain Hacks To Boost Your Happiness Video | Top 6 Secrets - Compilation | Goalcast Inspiration

✪ 6 Different experts share their motivational speeches about different aspects of our minds that will help us increase our happiness, purpose in life and inspiration to achieve success in whatever aspect we set our mind to.

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[Music] I'm gonna give you three very simple instructions instruction number one identify your dominant hand instruction number two with your dominant hand snap your fingers five times very quickly awesome instruction number three with the forefinger of your dominant hand the pointer finger of your dominant hand on your forehead draw for me a capital e [Music] excellent this is an experimental technique that social psychologists have used since the early 1980s to measure what's called perspective taking the ability to get out of your own head and see things from someone else's point of view snap your fingers five times quickly what's that instruction about nothing it's just a distraction finally you get to the part that the researchers really are looking for which is this there are two different ways to draw the e alright I can draw it like this so you can see it your perspective or I can draw it like this so I can see it my perspective put people into an experimental setting control for handedness make them snap their fingers ask them to draw an e what do they do do they take their own perspective or do they take someone else's perspective if you drew the e from your own perspective it doesn't mean you're a bad person because what really matters here is context in general the more powerful people feel the more their perspective taking abilities degrade all of you are about to become more powerful some of you will begin drawing the e differently than you drew it today if you gradually lose the ability to see the world through another's eyes all the experience and expertise you've accumulated will melt into a puddle of unrealized potential but if you work to balance power and perspective taking you'll become a more effective leader because you'll offer reasons beyond I said so for why anybody should follow you you will avoid what could be the biggest mistake that bosses teachers executives government officials and anyone else in a position of power can make and the mistake is this thinking you're the smartest person in the room if you think you're the smartest person in the room you've just proved that you're not believing that you're the smartest person in the room trust me on this never ends well remember the lesson of the e argue like you're right but listen like you're wrong use your power but sharpen your perspective taking what is this marshmallow test well when you look at children and you look at all the different theories about what makes successful kids you realize that almost all the theories are wrong because they haven't been verified like for example high IQ you have a lot of high IQ people who become marginal members of society and so what is the one psychological test that correlates with success in life and I found out that it's the marshmallow test you get kids and ask them do you want a marshmallow now or two marshmallows a few hours from now and the kids that want the marshmallow now tend to be those that want shortcuts those that don't want to do the hard work they want the the quick kill they grab that marshmallow but the other ones say no wait a minute if I wait two hours I can get two marshmallows I can hold out there's a pot of gold waiting for me they're not going to take the shortcut and so you say to yourself well that's a test for kids but then you track them decade by decade by decade and you find that they are more successful they have a lower divorce rate higher income higher status in society that don't want that simple pay off now but are gonna delay gratification into the future and so I realize that that's the key to success in life not just science but in life don't take the shortcuts but can it be taught well part of it is your personality that is formed when you're very young okay let's be very clear about that but I think that yes I think that for example it turns out that if you do the same thing with poor children and the same thing with middle-class children it turns out the poor children will on general go for that for the quick kill because they know that things disappear real fast if there's money in the house it's gone in the future if you can show people that there is a pot of gold out there that yes you hold out you go to college you'll learn the discipline there's a pot of gold out there you can learn to appreciate that fact what we have in the brain that is different from animals is we understand time we understand the future my grandparents came to California a hundred years ago but imagine back then life expectancy was 49 years of age I mean you were born you had kids and died life was a bitch now we have an increased lifespan we have all the luxury goods instead of yelling out the window which is what my grandparents did to communicate we have the Internet and so when you look at it the long term a decade for a decade you realize you don't miss progress that we've made we constantly daydream we scheme we plot we constantly think about what could be now this is an experiment go home tonight and teach your dog the concept of tomorrow try it teach your dog the concept of tomorrow the next week the next year and you realize you can't animals live in the present and that's what I think intelligence is intelligence is being able to map the future simulate the future so if you get an experiment people with low IQ and high IQ put them in the same room and you give them the same job rob a bank you'll find out that the low IQ people probably do a much better job of robbing a bank plotting the bank robbery then high IQ people who get all messed up with legal implications and stuff like that the point is that you can have some very smart robbers because they see the future and that's what we humans do that animals cannot we constantly daydream we constantly create worlds that don't exist and to me that's what intelligence is some people ask me well what is the meaning of life then and I say to myself that if somebody gives you from up high the meaning of life it's too easy I mean is that all my attitude is that it's self-discovery we have to reinvent ourselves that we have to recreate ourselves that the meaning of life is rediscovery gives you better sex increases your good cholesterol gives you more friends gives you more meaning engagement life satisfaction and happiness if you have a Purpose Driven Life it adds years to your life you live longer let me share two stories with you Story number one we're interviewing one of those schoolteachers she says the first year I taught was heaven the second year I taught was hell I had five boys that second year and they were incorrigible and there was one kid in particular he was impossible one day this kids in the doorway of the classroom woman he's kicking and moving his arms making noises and I lost it he's she said I'm shame to say these words but I walked towards that kid with the intention of kicking him thank heavens he got up and ran away I kept walking I went to the principal's office I said this is it it's him or me and the principal took the kid ale she said I felt terrible so I went to to my colleagues and poured my heart up and they said to me you are not the key to every door and as she said those words she burst into tears in the interval and we waited a long time and then she looked up and said I hated that those words you can't be the key to every door she said so I decided to become the key to every door instead of pushing disruptive kids away I began to seek them out I began to bring them into my world I read every book I could find I kept notes I ran experiments I kept notes on the experiments pulled herself up and said today I am the key to every door when there's a disruptive troubled kid in the school is give her to me so Assoc seems to know what to do with them that's a profoundly important story it's a story of transformative learning when I have a higher purpose I find the energy and the courage to go outside my comfort zone now the second story is a lot closer to home I once had a daughter she was single she was living in Washington DC she had reached that point in life where she said there's none not a good man left on the earth and then she found one and she got really excited relationship grew and then one day our phone rang she's talking to a mother and I know what's going on this guy just dumped her this daughter is the firstborn child many firstborn children share a common characteristic if they're miserable they want you to be miserable too and she said I'm coming home this weekend no her mother hangs up and says you're the father you go the important pick her up oh so the next day I go pick her up she gets in the car and she doesn't say hello how are you she says that no-good dirty Donna not five minutes later she takes a breath and I saw you problem-solving a purpose finding we're finally pulling in the driveway she takes another breath I say it again she said what are you talking about and she said this is the real world this is the real world my den where in the house I pull out a sheet of paper out of my file and it says Robert Quinn life state she looks at it and then she grows kind of quiet and she looks up and says when you feel bad you read this I said no when I feel bad I rewrite it's been rewritten hundreds of times yeah I can hardly understand some of this stuff he suggests written to a custom heights audience one person then the first miracle happened she said do you think I could write one of these I said I'm sure you can she went in the bedroom for a day and a half she worked on her life state but the miracle was I did not have to suffer she cut on the plane she flew home ought to DC a couple days pass I get an email she he called me all this will be interesting and she says I wrote in this letter and I'm reading this letter that she's attached it's incredibly vulnerable hope honest and then at the bottom it says and my roommate said I can't give this down now that's an interesting thing why can't we give this letter to this guy you don't tell some guy that talked to you that you know here's how you feel and then she said what my roommates don't understand is that what he thinks doesn't matter whoa wait a minute a few days ago what he thought caused her life to shatter now she's saying what he thinks doesn't matter she's saying this is who I really am didn't know this a while ago now I know it it doesn't matter what other people think you see when you clarify your purpose you take back your external locus of control where you worry about what other people think and you take it in turn focus you don't become insensitive if you don't become rebellious you become sinner you become powerful now here's the interesting thing in the next few months she began to be promoted her career turn why this was a dating breakup why is her career taking off because when you find purpose and meaning and what you're doing in one area of your life it grows in every area of life because you are one person that company had a woman coming in with the same dresses on body looked the same but it wasn't the same employee this was a woman now full of leadership for the first time when someone has that meaning than that integrity things start to change the research says when you give up self-interested goals where most of us are most real time and you take on contributed goals you function differently the biology changes the thought processes learning accelerates you grow more the only thing that I'm left to conclude is you and I are designed to P be purpose seeking mechanisms you've been shaped by life you've had bad experiences and good experiences and both the bad experiences and the good experiences are there to teach you something about you and if you look very carefully at those you can determine what your purpose is every person in this room can clarify the purpose of their life become the key to every door [Music] this is your first challenge I'm gonna give you 30 seconds I want you to turn to someone sitting near you next to you they look them in the eye and this is what I want you to say when I look at you I see blank okay 30 seconds go you're gonna look at me and say Missy when I look at you I see blank okay [Music] [Applause] Alexis when I look at you I see me where am I looking I'm looking in their eyes deeper than that where am I looking their brain in their heart we're getting closer yes where their soul we're getting really close now where's your soul it inside that is your first challenge for today stop looking at people on the outside and say this out loud look on the inside and here's where you use this it's really hard to look at someone who doesn't look like you and see yourself in them my children don't look like me they look like their mom they location they look Filipino they have black hair and brown eyes and Asian skin they're tan and they just don't look like me my son Justin he likes anime and Justin likes wrestling WWE what you need to know about Justin though is it has autism and he's awesome he's kind he's compassionate he's caring but he doesn't understand where he fits in socially he can't look people in the eye he doesn't know how to interject himself into a conversation he doesn't know where he fits in when Justin was in middle school he used to come home from school every day and I would ask him hey buddy where'd she eat lunch today and he would say daddy I ate alone he still does some things in the hell in high school Justin looks like all of you guys and he is just like all you guys not here here and there's a difference guys between being alone and being lonely no one here is alone we're all in the physical proximity of people but there are people sitting in here who are lonely lonely is a feeling lonely is toxic lonely is dangerous it leads you to do things that you normally wouldn't do a lot of times unhealthy things about five five years ago now Justin learns how to skate and eight months goes by and he gets invited to play once playing a rec league team with typical kids with regularly developing kids and the last game of the season we were losing it was eight three it's about three minutes to go and I'm in the bleachers there was a faceoff and now Kyle takes the puck and he passes it to Justin and Justin skates in and he takes a soft shot and it goes off the goalies pad and he stuffs gets the rebound he stuffs it in the goal and the kids are going crazy and I'm gonna say I'm crying I'm like melting the ice with my tears and so I went over to the opposing teams bench and I reached out my hand took their coach because I knew what he had done and I said thank you and he looked right at me he looked right at me and he said don't thank me thank the boys and they were 10 and 11 years old and all they did was let a kid score a goal but here's the takeaway they had no idea how they would affect that kid's father that day they had no idea that that kid's father would go out and tell that story to over a hundred thousand kids and I don't think you're too young to hear that message and so I say that to you your life is not about you your life is not about you your life is about all the people around you your life is about all the people you can touch all the people you can impact all the people you can influence all the people you love and all the people that love you that's how you source your life live your life like that and watch your life change it's amazing what happens [Music] did you know that one of your hands is longer than the other one it's true watch this underneath your palm you have a line that goes straight across your hand now please take those two lines line them up perfectly so you make this fan shape now with that fan shape please stretch your hands out roll your hands together and you'll see that one of your hands is just barely longer than the other one show me the shorter of your two hands hold it up real high so I can see it we're gonna give this hand a goal look your hands square in the eye say this at your hand head say it like you mean it and I command you to grow bigger now watch this line those two lines up again stretch your hands out roll them together and look at how that hand grew what you just did was give your hand a very simple goal you said I'm gonna make my hand grow what's even cooler is if you do the exact same thing for yourself you come up with your own list of twenty five fifty a hundred goals or summits for yourself and you define success for you so how do you discover what your Everest is your big thing for you it's real simple take a giant piece of paper draw three huge circles on it the first circle you write down everything you're talented in the second circle you write down everything you're passionate about in the final circle you write down what education you already have or what education you would be willing to get and whatever it is overlapping in the center that is your Everest so you might ask what's it like to actually climb Mount I'd like to take you there now if you look at the Statue of Liberty it's one of the most recognized buildings on the planet 305 feet tall now if I exit out of this presentation and shrink that images down as small as I can get it and then I stack ninety-five point two of those Statue of Liberty's on top of each other that gives us 29,035 feet above sea level which is the height of Mount Everest and there are only eight ways to die on Everest avalanche on affected fall of exposure pulmonary edema cerebral edema dehydration heart attack and crevasse fall if I could just not do those I'll be fine right the climb was pretty intense we keep climbin higher and higher the combats steeper and steeper now the air on Mount Everest is one third of the oxygen that you and I are breathing here so my pace was one step four three breaths [Music] I thought man there's no way I'm gonna make it up to the summit this is too slow this is ridiculous I'm taking these steps and I get to a spot where I cannot take my leg out of the ice I looked down they're not stuck on anything what's going on why can't I move my foot new route he's a local to Nepal comes over to me and he takes his mitt off and he knocks twice on my oxygen cannister on my back normally it would make a noise like thunk-thunk showing that there was oxygen in it but it was full he goes and he says sir very bad news you have no air maybe we go back maybe you die and I said not that one he says Oh more air up high and what he was saying was that previously in the expedition there had been oxygen bottles that were stashed up higher in case of emergency he could go get one and I would stay in place so he disappears off into the Himalayan black sky there's not a feeling like of loneliness in the world like sitting in the middle of the Himalayan mountains with no one around you at night I'm looking down at that red suit that I put on and it starts to turn gray and then almost black and I realized what's happening was my brain was shutting down I was actively dying because of the lack of oxygen remembering my hero Sir Edmund Hillary who said it's not the mountain we conquer but ourselves conquer yourself genre conquer yourself John finally I see this light coming down towards me and I'm like please be nuru please be nuru and he says John sir I have air and I'm like yes they takes this oxygen bottle off of the regulator the old one he takes the new one screws it in I take a breath and as soon as I do my suit turns from gray to red again whoa my foot pops right out we start walking he says ready to climb I say yeah ready to climb let's do this absolutely so I start taking these steps one after the other three breaths one step copper's call her yourself so I see this pyramid shadow in the distance that shadow is Mount Everest being cast dozens of miles into the distance and that's when I realized that I was there I was standing on top of the world on top of Mount Everest I'm here now not to brag about myself or tell my own mountaineering stories if you leave here and think all that guy did was tell his climbing stories you've missed the point this is about you because every person should have his or her own Everest see in life bad things happen there are challenges but do not have a case of excuse itis where you have this disease that things are too hard too difficult or that you're not good enough for whatever reason the mountains will never lower themselves to your level but you must rise up to the demands presented to you by the climb the problems of the world are not going to get easier you must rise up bring out that leader within and rise up to the demands presented to you by the Condor the greatest leaders of all time have come from the times of greatest turmoil the greater the problem the greater the opportunity for leaders like you to step up we are a generation that is disciplined we are generation that is productive we are a generation that is fighting to fix the mess that was given to us we are a generation that believes that this planet will not move forward unless we embrace kindness compassion and respect for all of life it is a choice that you will make whether or not you will let that leader out will you [Music] about 40% of our happiness on average is dictated by our genes about 15% is dictated by our life circumstances above 50% of our our happiness is really up to us over the last 15 years or so with National Geographic I've developed a bit of an expertise at finding extraordinary populations in the world and then learning from them but how do you do this for happiness how do you measure happiness you can look at somebody who's laughing today but they might have might be masking depression people could be fibbing about their happiness or they may just be laughing and happy because they had a few cocktails happiness is really a meaningless term because you can't really measure happiness but you can measure life satisfaction you can ask people on a scale of one to ten well I'm gonna start with the coolest way to measure happiness what we search for and Google predicts happiness even better than education and income first of all it turns out that people who google Abart their dogs are happier than people who are googling cats they figure people who are looking to find action movies and comedies are happier than people who are looking for romances and for those of you who prefer romance by yourself people who google softcore porn are happier than people who google hardcore porn don't worry it was anonymized data but for this project I took a more straightforward approach I asked these huge databases to tell me where in the world life satisfactions highest daily motions are highest and purposes highest the happiest place is the island nation of Singapore what you have here are 5 million people very ethnically diverse that live in near perfect harmony almost everybody in the entire country owns their own house and in these high-rise housing communities every building reflects the ethnic diversity of the entire country so you have no ghettos for the Malay or no ghettos for the Indian or gated communities for the Chinese the kids go to school together part of the world where people enjoy their life most from day to day is in Costa Rica the Central Valley in the middle of the country gorgeous place flanked by three volcanoes verdant green best coffee in the world - and everywhere in Latin America there's some sort of a Latin American secret sauce if you control for everything else Latins are happier than everything every place else and the needs are taken care of in Costa Rica so these Latin values of family of religion and the notion that they'll never forego a great social experiment experience to do stay at the office and do a little extra work the happiest people in the world are socializing face to face with the people that means something to them about five to six hours a day and they get that here you go to the other side of the planet northern Denmark or who specifically we found the highest purpose people find more purpose in their life than by anyplace else so this is a place where status is not really celebrated but equality is this is a place where people are taxed to the mean some people don't take a job just for money America according to Gallup only 30% of Americans like their job in Denmark it's about 80% because they don't have to worry about paying for their insurance and they kind of realized that status isn't celebrated they're better off getting a job that addresses their passion and their flow so you think things like furniture design and architecture they work for 37 hours they knock off in 3:30 p.m. and then they go enjoy their hobby be it rabbit jumping or bicycling all natural don't try this at home so when it comes to individuals the picture is a little bit different so not all of us can move but I'm gonna give you a few ideas on how you can shape your own environment your own ecosystem to favor happens people undergo a deep meditation experience are able to live in the present better than people who don't it's a certain rewiring of the brain in a permanent way every new happy friend you add to your social network increases your own happiness by about 15% unhappiness and even loneliness are measurably contagious so really curating those people who you're traveling through life but one of the most offending way to create your happiness when it comes to work the biggest driver of whether or not you're happy at work it's nothing to do with your pay or your boss it's whether or not you have a best friend at work so the takeaways are this when it comes to happiness think about a diversified portfolio of pleasure pride purpose and don't try to change your behalf don't run after happiness trying to run after happiness or get change your behavior to be happier as it is a recipe for neuroses it'll occasionally work in the short run it'll almost never work in the longer so I want to close with a blessing this comes from a guy named Armando Fuentes he's a columnist in Mexico I asked him for his advice and he thought for a minute each say here's what I recommend you he said eat without Gwaltney drink without getting drunk love without jealousy argue but don't go to bed mad and occasionally with great discretion misbehave you